If you’re not satisfied with the results, get back and take another shot

I run away at every chance I get. (There’s a reason.)

I don’t even care anymore. (There’s a reason.)

It’s by no mistake that I’m more alive when I’m away. (There’s also a reason for that.)

Recently I realized, there’s only so many chances that should be given since your time is limited – if you’re going to write a place off altogether, it’s better to just distance yourself from that place and all of its BS altogether.

Just say ‘no’.

You don’t care. You never did. So why bother pretending you do now.

You’re not on the same reality as those around you, and that’s okay – because there’s a number of people that understands you on the other side of the world. They understand you despite not sharing the same background. You might ask yourself how fucked up is that – but shit happens – what’s more fucked up is not doing anything about it, not seeking it out.

If you see an opportunity, even a glimmer of hope, you should pursue it.

The worst of it would disappointment. Disappointment never killed. But how many people died with their dreams unrealized is probably far too many.

There’s still people that makes you excited and make you smile. That’s a good sign. It means they mean something to you. And for that ‘meaning’ you’re trying to seek, you’re better off seeking it – because ultimately, it means something to you.

 

if you’ve known the lowest low, then you’re ready for the highest high

Everything’s just going to be the same until the end of time.

Not true.

If your base point, if your low point is your lowest – then congratulations, you just found your starting point. You found the firm ground you’re going to be bouncing off from.

It took me a long time to realize this principle: everything don’t have to be the same all the time. All I needed was more effort and focus on building the new reality, while not getting trapped into the gravitational pull of the ground.

It’s easy to stay grounded. In fact, it’s easier to stay grounded, in a static existence, while it seems the world around you changes, constantly. It could feel like you’re the only person standing still – because you don’t know how to make leaps of faith – or maybe, you’re just too scared.

But what’s so scary?

If you’d already decided you’re at your lowest low – then what’s stopping you from reaching your highest height?

Think about it.

motivational monday!

Let’s start off this week on a positive note, something I’ve slowly realized over time.

When I first heard the saying, ‘happiness is a choice’ I was highly skeptical, as by nature I’m a highly logical individual that believed in ‘cause’ and ‘effect’, or as I would later learn in my undergraduate discipline: ‘correlation’.


In short, sunshine, good weather, ice cream are correlated with positive moods, and rain, overcast and flat tires are associated with negative moods.

I was all too ready to accept, after all, when you presented information like that, it gave everyone ‘reason’ to be happy or sad. Right? So if I was feeling one way or another and had evidence to justify so, I was ‘reasonable’ right?

Yes, of course.


And for a long while I thought this way, only this ‘logical’ way of dealing with everything was draining. It seemed that the bad always buried the good and so, I was fixated on the 9999+ faults and problems on my plate to solve – and you can probably guess, this is not a formula to happiness – which is ironic, because my major was Psychology.

But then, life taught me lessons I never grasped in books. I started to realize. It just didn’t matter. It didn’t matter if the sky’s grey or the sun’s shining – don’t wait for happiness! Why? Because, can you be perfectly happy the moment you ‘decide’ to be. (It took me a while to grasp this, but really, you can.)

Happiness is indeed a choice, there is no ‘because xyz’ – happiness is something exuded from within, even on rainy days you could look on the bright side and hope for the best – and it should be shared with those around. Why? Because happiness is highly contagious! And trust me, when you see other people happy because of you, you’d be very happy too (if you still need a reason, and if you don’t believe me, try it!)

So, when you can, you should always choose happiness – because it’s in difficult times that we learn and in the aftermath we celebrate, only celebration is short lived, but happiness shouldn’t be.

Life is a process. It’s not the triumph at the end that’s the sweetest, rather, the personal journey we carry out from day to day matters as much as the end result if not more. So, don’t ‘wait’ to be happy at the end – instead, choose to be happy and just be. 🙂