What you are doing today is important.

Not gonna lie, April has been a busy and stressful month for me. Between wrapping up school projects, I’ve also managed to squeeze in time at work. It all meant caffeine-fueled days and nights – where my waking moments felt like a dream and my dreams were filled with potential failings of my days.

Of course, this did not translate well in my psyche and I ran into several times during the semester where I absolutely felt like I’m heading for a mental breakdown. In the heat of the moment, it just felt that the impossible was before me and I needed to get past it anyhow.

Drawing from previous experience, I always tried to push down the fears and tell myself it’ll be over soon…and true to my promise to myself – I did get over it and it was over soon.

Still, getting past obstacles was one thing but staying motivated to the cause was another – several times I found myself back away from things that needed to be done and my motivation chip away from the mountain of responsibilities I had racked up with seemingly no way out but to see it through.

The feeling of lack of direction stayed with me until today, as I was studying for those pesky finals which will commence right after Easter Holidays. I randomly picked up a book by Anthony “Tony” Robbins – Awaken the Giant Within. I’m not even half way through the book, but when Anthony wrote about the story of the founder of Honda – whom had to go through many trials and tribulations just to get to where he was – only to have it swept out from under him by forces way beyond his control, made me realize that what I had to deal with was nothing and perhaps I should remind myself more often that what I’m doing today is of high importance to the future I’m shaping up for tomorrow and so on.

I also read an article recently that I think will help with me despising where I am currently residing. And for those of you with a similar issue, here’s the article: To Beat Burnout, Be Good at Ignoring Things . Essentially, we should learn to ignore things that are outside of our control and focus on what we can control.

In reflection, while it did feel like I “tried” from January to April to “deal” with the situation, I still often adopted the “helpless” mindset, as if I’m struggling to get by. I let things that I couldn’t control occupy my thoughts for too long and did not learn to ignore and focus until recently. But still, I know I am progressing. I know I am slowly learning to do the right thing in order to achieve what I want in life. I might in several years late in realizing what I want, but it’s better late than never.

Remember, what you are doing today is important as you are shaping your future accordingly.

You got to go for it.

Late night studying, no, not these language, but rather computer programming languages (I guess I’ll get to that later). I popped onto Facebook and saw 20+ memories. I just had to click. After another sip of my coffee in the dead of night. I scrolled through all those posts I made years ago.

This song popped up: You got to go – Above & Beyond

Yet another sign isn’t it. How did I know so long ago, just by liking the lyrics?

Then I thought back, to earlier this evening, earlier this week and how many friend I counselled with issues similar to mine. They feel that they’re stuck in the wrong place – or perhaps they’re disappointed with where they are at in life – disappointment is a driving force.

Then I remember a quote from a business book that’s mandatory for class:

“A satisfied need is not a motivator; only needs that remain unsatisfied can influence behaviour.”

You’re unsatisfied? Good.

You know what you want? Even better.

Go get it. You got to. Because you know what’s waiting on the other side if you don’t.

Disappointment only leads to more desire.

Don’t disappoint yourself this time.

Life is not a rehearsal.

And yes, I realize I haven’t been posting much. Between a hectic school schedule, I also manage to sneak work in here and there. My final exams are coming up and I fully intend on seizing the moment! Wish me luck!

How To Have A Good Week.

Monday Monday Monday, probably not everyone’s favorite day of the week. However, now that I look at Monday, I’m actually excited. Why you might say, well Monday is the beginning of a new week, and I believe that how you set up your Monday affects your entire week.

I’m not talking productivity alone, but also overall wellbeing.

Think about it, if you start off your week right, then you’ll stay focused and ready to engage in whatever life throws at your way.

Here are some quick tips (which I might also expand on at a later date).

  1. Go to bed no later than 11PM on a Sunday night. Why is this? Well, because you need to be refreshed for Monday mornings.
  2. Hit the Gym in the morning. This is so crucial, this morning I made it to the gym by 5:30AM. Not only did my workout wake me up, but it also got me excited for the whole week with a focused mindset. Another plus is that usually at 5AM in the morning there’s hardly anyone at the gym. So you’ll have the place to yourself to workout in peace and also leave feeling pumped and accomplished, ready to tackle the day.
  3. Stay hydrated. And not with coffee, I realized in the past few months because of the lack of routine and how much work I had to handle, I relied too heavily on caffeine products, which would leave me feeling lethargic and mind-fogged after the buzz is gone. And what I found out was that I wasn’t drinking enough water. Remember your body is 70% water so you need to replenish throughout the day.
  4. Eat Healthy. I know, this is also hard, especially if you’re running around trying to complete task after task after task and you feel that you have very little time for yourself. And of course, in that state people are more likely to reach for something high fat, high sugar, high salt to treat themselves. And while a treat once in a while isn’t going to be too damaging, but if you’re doing it regularly (personal experience) and add in the booze, then there’s an issue. If your budget allow it, then grab a salad at a healthy place, if it doesn’t then meal prep (which is something I’m going to do later this week, since I forgot to do it last Sunday opps.)
  5. Stay proactive. Here’s another truth, work will pile up if you don’t stay on top of it. Complaining about it won’t make it go away. Tackle everything with enthusiasm!! And now, I’m going to do just that.

    Have a good week everyone! 🙂

Why you fail to achieve your goals.

Goal setting, I’m sure we’re all done it, whether conscious or subconscious.

Everytime you hear yourself say, I want X by Y time, you’re setting a goal for yourself. Now, if you don’t put a time on X, then that is merely a wish.

However, often times, goals are set, but are never get realized. Why is that?

There are of course many reasons for goal hinderance, but the biggest one I’ve realized as of late is because of poor compartmentalization rather than planning itself.

You can plan an overall goal, but can you anticipate each step you need to take to make that goal successful?

Failure is often not poor planning, but poor execution. 

Life doesn’t stop and wait for you to “feel ready” to do something. Life just goes. And with that said, so should your goal. Let’s say, if your goal is to “build a functional website in 10 days.” Then the first thing you should do is to make up a work plan, but also at the same time, divide it up in 10 days (hopefully you’ll have that 10 days to yourself, but rarely is that the case) if you don’t have the 10 days to yourself, then you got to get creative, squeeze the project in and get it done.

Now this leads me to the second part of failure.

Failure is often when you fail to sacrifice what is now, for what will be in the future. 

I’ve ran into this last week. I was just not having it, even though I had 300 million things to do. A total breakdown. I broke under pressure. And I realized, that was weakness on my part.

I should’ve just pushed personal issues aside and powered through. To be honest, a lot of things in life are once in a life time. When I think back, sure, it’s never really life or death – but, wouldn’t it be better if I gave it my all on first try and didn’t fuck up as much?

Failure is getting sidetracked and forgetting what the end goal is.

TL:DR: If your internal system decides that the present is worth more than the future then your goal wouldn’t be achieved. But, if your future depends on the sacrifices you make today – then make that sacrifice for a better future.

Myer-Briggs Test

Here’s something I find interesting, in business class today, we had to do a personality test and since I’ve done these tests before I skipped ahead and completed the assignment which was to develop it into a spiel and present it to the classroom. For my personality type, which is INTJ, I wrote the following.

INTJ

We are known as “the architects”. We view the world around us as building blocks, our blueprint is our experiences, possibilities are endless. We’re often quiet because our minds never stop churning from being ravenously curious about the world.

We work well with ideas. We see the possibilities and apply them to the world. We’re imaginative problem solvers.

In fact, I think each INTJ has their own methods of viewing a problem, dissecting a problem, then solving it. We’re logical and analytical, objective and impartial.


You can trust us with coming up with a course of action, implement it, and see it through.

Recently, someone asked me, ‘what makes you happy?’

“I want to understand things in order to improve upon what is known and possible. I want to understand things in order to achieve what is deemed unheard of and impossible.”

If you’re curious to find out what you are, you can go here: https://www.16personalities.com/intj-personality
and try out the test yourself.

Study tips for serious procrastinators

Let’s be real here, someday, or somedayor even week could be a non-productive day/week. There is only so much ‘studying’ one could do before well, ‘burn-out’ happens and before you know it, you’re a couple of lectures behind on material. So what would you do in that case?

Say if you have a Quiz on Friday and it is already Wednesday…

What should you do?

Well first, even if you want to procrastinate more, it’s definitely time to snap out of it. While it is tempting to scroll through endless amounts of Instagram posts and Snapchat, find new music on Youtube and Spotify, you know, deep down that with each second that passes the opportunity to study passes with it.

The thing is I like to think that I’m not stupid – but I’m also self confessed, very lazy. If I knew I could be getting away with minimal work then why would I put in extra time. But, this is of course a dangerous idea.

The problem is you think you have time.

Here are a few things to consider:

There’s only 24 hours in a day, and that 3-4 hours you waste are still counted within that 24 hour day.

You still have to sleep 5-8 hours a day to remain functional without copious amounts of coffee. (I’d recently done a test with very little sleep, bad bad idea.)

So let’s say you sleep 7 hours, you still have 17 hours to study, right?

WRONG.

You actually have very little time, given other responsibilities and commitments such as classes, meetings, the gym, eating, personal care, venting to friends, listening to friends vent to you.

So how much time do you actually have?

Very little and none if you don’t schedule for it.

Now that we’ve gone through the reasons and logistics – now the solution. If you’re absolutely pressed for time say there’s a test in 48 hours.

  1. open up your lecture notes now and start skimming through the concepts and make sure you understand everything (if you don’t circle it or make a note of it and then go back once the review is done.)
  2. make sure you go over the concepts you’re hazy about and understand them.
  3. Depending on the subject, if it’s math oriented, do lots and lots of practice problems that will no doubt show up on the test. If it’s more memorization oriented, make sure you can relate the terms in a concept that works together i.e: see the bigger picture.
  4. repeat steps 1-3 in every spare moment you have when you’re hopefully not procrastinating anymore.
  5. let your cram sessions be a lesson and learn to pace yourself throughout the week. It is much easier digesting material bit by bit rather than all at once.

Fun fact, did you know, a ‘bit’ (binary digit) is the smallest unit of information stored in a computer. It translates to a yes or no (true/false) answer to a question. A collection of 8 bits is a byte and this of course translates to 2 bytes being 16 bits, 4 bytes being 32 bits, and 8 bytes being 64 bits.

And now off to more studying!

What is the vision for 2017?

Barcelona, Spain, Travel, Europe

Wow, doesn’t time fly when you’re busy? But does busy equate to productivity? The answer would be no.

March is upon us and I realized I never wrote a plan for this year. I mean, in 2017 I want to achieve quite a few things which I’ve highlighted in how do you know if you’re on the right track. But to make everything more concrete so I know exactly what to finish before summer arrives:

March:

  • Use Spring Break wisely and catch up on school work.
  • Decide on a personal project you’re going to do / could put into your portfolio.
  • Finish 1 extracurricular book outside of reading material.
  • Hit the gym 5 days / 7 days.
  • Duolingo everyday!
  • Blog once a week, review progress.

April

  • Ace those finals!
  • Have the basics down for personal project be 10% complete.
  • Finish 1 extracurricular book outside of reading material.
  • Hit the gym 5 days / 7 days.
  • Duolingo everyday!
  • Blog once a week, review progress.

May

  • Wrap up on final school project.
  • Have personal project be 20% complete, and set up for further offline work.
  • Finish 1 extracurricular book outside of reading material.
  • Hit the gym 5 days / 7 days.
  • Duolingo everyday!
  • Blog once a week, review progress.

How do you know you’re on the right track?

Ever since I’ve been back at school, I haven’t had much time to myself. My program is compact and intensive. It takes up my 9-5 hours from Monday to Friday, on top of that, I have a myriad of assignments to complete, group members to meet-up with, and needless to say, I have no idea how I made it through the first month of it while still working on the weekends…

Alas, I survived the ordeal and now I’m here.

Midterm season is upon me and I thought why not take the time to recap and reflect?

Q1. Am I happy with my program?

A1. For the most part, yes. Yes it is exhausting, but I’m also learning a lot. The people in my program are awesome! It is really as if we realize we’re in this pressurized cooker together – just trying to get done. I’m happy I went back to school, giving it a second shot. Dare I say, I’m giving myself a short-term purpose, something to focus on other than being constantly reminded how I’m nowhere I want to be.

Q2. What are some of my short-term goals / plans?

A2. Finish this semester and go travel. I’m in need of another break from where I am now in order to be inspired to get to where I want to be eventually. I also need to use my trusty camera more.

Q3. How do you know you’re on the right track?

A3. Gut feeling, or if what you’re doing now beats out all other alternative, then more likely than not you’re on the right track.

Q4. What do I wish I could improve on more?

A4. Better time management skills, having a stable sleep schedule, no more all night cramming (it’s unnecessary) cut down on my 4 cups of coffee a day habit, actually hit the gym, make more time for studying, find a side gig I can do while I’m at school, finding new ways of doing things, better ways of doing things. All sorts of things I could be improving on.

Nevertheless, the progress, the fact that I’m moving towards something gives me momentum to keep on going.

So how do you know if you’re on the right track?

Give yourself the chance to pick up momentum (it won’t be easy, most of the time it’d be hard) but again, if you really want something you will make it happen. After all, if everyone just settled for “what-is” from Day 1 there would’ve never been any inventions or innovation that improves our lives. So rather than accepting everything as “static” start asking “what-if” and then go and make it happen.

 

Things I’ve already learned in 2017

Happy 2017!

I hope everyone’s had a wonderful start of the year – over here on my side of this world, I didn’t do much. I worked on New Years Eve and then on New Years Day. Not too much of a big deal really, seeing that I took Christmas Eve, Christmas Day and Boxing Day off to be with my family so family time was not compromised.

And, with 3 days already into the new year, I found myself with some new insights following lessons learned in 2016 .

Your Time is Precious

Yes, you’ve heard this an infinite amount of times. But whether or not you really grasp its importance is the difference between having time and not having time, achieving goals and not achieving goals. I’d been working an insane amount lately, but also mindfully. I’m aware of my physical limits, energy and otherwise. So for the next two days which I have off, I’m going to utliize my time with maximum efficiency in mind (to accomplish all the things not only needs to be done, but also the things that I want to do.)

Appreciate where you are in your journey

One thing you’re going to hear less from me this year is whining and bitching. I’ve been rereading some of my previous posts and looking back, I facepalmed myself several times. It was as if I knew nothing about hustling and had to learn how to work hard. That was my mistake – but the point is, I look back and I’m not as ashamed as I thought I would be.

Because you could say, having gone through that experience, I built up my tolerance for hardwork, bullshit, bad situations and overall adversaries.

I’ve overcome them to get to where I need to be.

It was a necessary step.

Take another example, the one that never left me since 2013.

Say the person of your dreams stood in front of you. But are you really ready for them? In 2013 it was proven ‘no’. However, despite my thinskin and continuous neurosis of everything that must’ve went wrong that had to do with myself. I don’t see it that way at all anymore – because it’s what had happened after the ultimate rejection that propelled me forward to become “better”, to become “worthy”.

So, don’t be ‘stuck’ failing at something is not final.

And if you ask me now in 2017.

Are you ready for the person of your dreams?

The answer would still be ‘no’. But this time, I know myself.

Learn from people around you

You are a body made up of unique experiences, however, you have one chronological timeline with limited experiences – but why not expand those experiences by learning from the experiences of others?

Because I work so much, I’ve been hanging out with my coworkers a lot – aside from the lunchroom banters, I’ve also been chatting with each and one of them and learning about them, but also through their unique experiences.

As the old Chinese idiom goes: three people walks, one is my teacher.

Meaning that one could and should learn from one another.

Logic wins

It doesn’t matter how you “feel”, “feelings” pass but glory and truth last forever.

Listen to the sound of your own drum

And focus on you, your goals, be diplomatic, be real, but also be unapologetically you.

Lessons Learned in 2016

As we close out this year, I would like to share some of the wisdoms I’ve gained this year. Let’s start off by saying that this year was one of the most challenging and one of the most rewarding years yet – I got to be where I wanted to be for 1/4 of the year – I’ve went through a lot, learned a lot, worked a lot and vacationed a lot. And who can forget the friends I’ve made along the way through work and travel.

2016 was a year where I found my values.

2016 was a year where I learned to say “fuck you” and directed that fuck you both professionally and personally.

2016 was the year I learned to let go of a lot of things and in doing so I was  able to gain a new perspective on life.

And now without further ado, let me list some of those things I’ve learned this year.

Know yourself and your value

Who is that person looking back at you in the mirror day in day out? What is that person about? Who are you? How are you self defined? Is it by your beliefs, your passions, your plans for the future?

Are you self defined or are you defined by others?

This, I found was crucial. Because if you don’t have a strong sense of “self”, you’d more likely be “okay” with everything and that includes yourself, the people you surround yourself with, your situation, your job and it goes on.

If you don’t have a strong sense of “self” knowledge, you’re also more likely to get told what to do – and for what? A manager who outright screams in your face that you should do certain things because she’s ‘paying’ you? You don’t deserve that kind of abuse. Lesson learned.

Say “No” to things more often

Please, please please, hear me out. 2016 was the year where I went through some pretty significant professional and personal changes. I’ve learned to never take on projects that didn’t interest me in the first place, and or only for the money.

I’ll tell you a story – I was fired this year by a company (whom by the way, did it in a very underhanded way. I still have no idea if I’m going to be paid in full by them, but if they dare not to. I’ll see them in court.) but the point is, after I had known I would be replaced I reached out to some of my friends and past contacts. They were kind enough to introduce me to new companies that paid a lot more, with better people, and company culture.

So, my firing ended up me making up more money in the end. It was a blessing in disguise.

Not only that, but afterwards, I realized that the company I had been fired from mistreated me and I should’ve never allowed that to happen in the first place.

I should’ve been bold and knew my own value from the beginning and got out of there sooner rather than later. Lesson learned.

Always have a plan

Why did you pay “X” amount to go back to school again?

Because, the school offers a foot in the door to the industry I want to switch into.

Because, I also realize that while I made “peace” with my city now I still don’t like it one bit and I’m by no means reckless enough to pack-up and move to Europe, which by the way has its own problems that can take up 20 posts by themselves, but in short – I realized how expensive it is to live well in the city of my choice in Europe and I know myself too much, and know what I’m after to know that I’ll be okay with mediocre.

I’m playing the long game here. (See #1, know yourself).

Make yourself uncomfortable through action

Get out your comfort zone, take risks…blah blah blah.

As if you’re actually gonna absorb those wise motivational stories and take everything in – no you probably won’t, you probably hit x on the browser and continue on with your day. So try this instead, wake up at 5AM, get up and start your day.

When it’s freezing outside, go out anyways for a run.

Or, like me, work 60+ hours with some 12+ hours added on commute time a week just to see for yourself how much you hate it.

And still, what’s your excuse not to change?

Scared?

What for?

You’ll be dead in 70 years time if you’re lucky.

Just how many people passed away in 2016?

And here you are, still breathing, still in one piece.

Scared still? You should be, because every time you waste time and be defined by others instead of yourself – every time you go for something just for monetary reward rather than staying true to yourself – you are wasting your own time, killing yourself.

That’s my wrap up for 2016.

2017, I’m ready for you.