How To Procrastinate and Get Nothing Done

Yes, that is a picture of me in game on Hearthstone, a game I’ve recently re-downloaded onto my phone and got semi hooked on. I lasted a maximum of 3 times in the Arena…after 40 or so hours invested in gameplay and yet still I have no Legendary Card? I give up.

So, since I can’t advice for productivity after wasting my own time, I’m going to advice for the opposite. I’m advising for procrastination instead.

Procrastination. Putting things off until the last minute, or putting things off indefinitely because:

The prospects of doing anything about the looming consequences are entirely too overwhelming and you do not even know where to start. It’s like cutting a perfectly circular cake, should I start to make an incision and therefore disrupt static perfection therefore induce chaos??!?

It’s better if I do nothing!

It’s not like life will keep moving on without you and that tasks won’t snowball. Now, if you’re under such impressions, then I recommend you the following in no particular order of distraction:

  1. Hearthstone
  2. Netflix
  3. YouTube
  4. Facebook
  5. Tumblr
  6. Email App on your phone

Now, if you recognize this in yourself and want to do something actually productive.

I say just shrug it off and start somewhere, even if it isn’t perfect or you aren’t completely comfortable with the idea. Comfort is an illusion. Comfort is something your brain made up so you don’t go for something better. Comfort is something you think you are sure about, but there’s no guarantee of such with the limited perspective each individual human are endowed with.

Again, it’s temporary relief from daily stress to distract yourself.

At the core of it, it isn’t solving any problems.

But since this is a post on procrastination, I’m going to put off ‘solving my problems’ until later and procrastinate on into the unknown…maybe the problems will fix themselves. Or so I would hope?

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Do yourself a favor: take more risks rather than settle

Let’s think about this. If humanity was satisfied from day one – then we would’ve stood still at day one. Possibly, we’d still be in loincloths with rocks and clubs…

Fortunately, the world doesn’t work that way.

Unfortunately, the world isn’t all hunky dory either.

The world is filled with obstacles, challenges, distractions – the world is filled with failures and triumphs, passion and heartbreaks.

That is life.

With that said, I realized my recent mini-panic about my ending contracts and moves I should be making in the next few month was a little unfounded. And here’s why, partially:

  1. It’s easy to find work, if you’re willing to work just any job. 

But, then, who wants to just work ANY job? At least I don’t. What got me was the prospects of working just any job and wasting time that way, like I had done in the past. Working JUST ANY JOB is a post in itself, but unsurprisingly, without putting my thoughts down on paper, I already know that the cons outweigh the pros. No matter how much I made, I’d feel that wasn’t a justification for wasting my life. And of course, the motivation of being here is lower than ever.

So what did I do?

There’s no way I will work, JUST ANY JOB.

I decided, I’m not going to sell myself short and explore other options. Trust me, when you start looking for them, they pop up everywhere. Is it possible to find a minimal stress contract while I work on other things? Yes. Absolutely. In my experience, it isn’t necessary to get all worked up over if you’re putting in 30 hours, or 40 hours a week, or if the office environment is fostering, or if your coworkers are inspiring people – if you have minimal responsibilities such as debt, mortgage, or a family to take care of – then I suggest, put less care into whatever you hate doing, and more energy in what invigorates you.

And remember. A job is just as says – a job.

It doesn’t own you.

And you owe nothing to no one.

How to be a better version of yourself: start with learn to be alone

Figuring out how you know it’s time to move on is one thing, then there is completely another thing – how do you figure out what remains stable in your life? I’ve been discussing this with my friend from Vienna, whom I both admire and respect.

We share similar values and are often perplexed by the same things about human nature and the way of the world.

We thrive to analyze and understand.

And through our discussions which can range from ‘what’s the meaning of life’ to ‘omgurrr!!! dat hottie over thur tho’ – yes see how much we oscillate between intellectual discussions to …let’s just say…spazztastic fangirling. But to go back on topic, recently we put our brains together and came down with a basic list of activities that fosters happiness, which in my opinion is the foundation of anything else you pursue thereafter.

  1. Health

    Here I’m talking about physical health. As human beings there are various factors that contribute to our physical health, genes and environment. Since genes are innate and unchangeable for the most part – then one should focus on the factors one could control, such as diet/exercise/rest. There are many reasons to pursue diet/exercise, but one must have a non-superficial attitude about this pursuit in order to be successful. It’s no coincidence diet/exercise industry is a billion dollars industry and gyms can charge a lot of money for membership fees – but is that really what you need? How many people have gym memberships and don’t actually go? Or have salads in the fridge but still go for fast food after work? Again. The focus of health has been promoted as something that starts with achieving an ideal goal. But should it really be like that? No. Health shouldn’t be about looking good on the outside – but rather, it should come from within. And when it does – going out for a run outside, or doing body weight exercises on the playground, or any other free activity would seem as valid and as motivating than the $50/month gym membership. With this said, I’m cancelling my membership at my gym at the end of this month.

  2. Books

    So now that you have physical health to support you in your endeavors. What else do you need? Vast collection of knowledge, not stored on the internet, but in your head. If you need to figure out who you are and where you’re headed – it’s recommended to draw inspiration from those that come before you, so you’ve explored, even if vicariously from the lives of another. Even if the times are different, one could draw inspiration from similarities and commonalities shared by people.

  3. Passion

    Lastly, there needs to be something, or many things that excite you and challenges you at the same time. There needs to be things that drives you, that perplexes you and makes you want to achieve new heights. I recently realized that there’s something truly scary about settling, because not only do you not get any better at anything but it also means you’ll never reach your true potential – whatever that true potential is.

And there you have it, a short summary of everything after food/shelter and safety have been met. How to become a better version of yourself and how to figure out who you really are.

How you know it’s time to move on

“It’s not fair, you’re not even giving this city a chance.”

Someone said this to me recently, and I gave him a stern look.

Aside from how much I wanted to punch him in the face, how dare he judge based on so little he knew – let’s think about this logically for a second.

17 years.

How can you say 17 years is not enough of a chance.

17 years, nearly two fucking decades spent somewhere – is that not enough time, not enough chance?

It was useless explaining why and how, but oh god, did I realize a lot of things afterwards, and it’s bad.

  1. I’m so sick of this city that there’s no point of me being here (and yes, I do realize this is like a repeat of how 2012 went)
  2. No amount of convincing me this place is more than it is will get me to stay
  3. I realize it’s not even 3 months since I’ve been back and…I’m done. So fucking done. Being here is like being in jail.
  4. I will most likely take that job offer in Europe in September (fingerscrossed)
  5. If I don’t, I’ll most likely go somewhere else, perhaps a different city.

There needs to be an infusion of new to restart my engine. Something I actually can relate to and feel excited about.

That’s all.

Why your children won’t listen to you anymore? (A child’s perspective)

Growing up, I thought my dad was the best in the world. He was so capable and through my observations, distant yet protective.

He’s the only father I’ll ever have – so he is the best and the only in that perspective.

However, being someone’s parent doesn’t entitle them to influence a child forever.

In fact, the older I get, the harder it is for me to listen. Here’s why:

Different Times, Different Values: The Generation Gap

It’s by no mistake that I live in a very different world than my parents’ generation. Just how much has the world changed since then? Quite a lot. I can recount the 90s quite well, possibly because that’s when the first internet boom happened, our first IBM laptop, dial up and the internet itself. It was all fun and games – but look at how fast things have progressed now? Could you imagine a life WITHOUT the internet? There’s so much content and knowledge floating around waiting to be explored, and so many more mentors one could seek out. Is the human race becoming colder? All you have to do is type it into Google and you’d see debates from both sides. So, in this age of information technology, free thinking is encouraged rather than old wisdom.

We inherently think differently:

Just because we share genetic material, does not a clone make. That, combined with nurturing makes us different. Generation gap aside, our personalities are different, as are our goals in life. There’s a good thirty years between my father and I, so its natural that we consider things from different perspectives.

I’m an adult, therefore I should be respected:

Yes, I get it, it’s hard to see someone you watch grow up as an adult. It’s hard not to fall back into thinking that’s still that child I read bedtime stories to. But time pass and people do grow, it’s important to see your child as an adult when the time comes, with the repercussion being, your child will gradually lose respect for you when you fail to acknowledge that.

You need to grow as well:

I used to see my father as a well of information I could consult at anytime. However, in recent years that haven’t been the case. Respect, like motivation, like cleanliness is something to be maintained. We’ve ran out of things to say to each other and since my opinions are never considered valid and I think his ideas are out of date and nothing new could be learned, see how that goes? Yes. So to stay relevant in anything, even in parenting, one must keep learning.

Effort is appreciated:

Genuine interest is appreciate. This is probably the most overlooked aspect of parenting. Children aren’t bored if you show them interest or challenge them to something new. Effort is appreciated. We, children, no matter what age, appreciate it when parents take time out of their day to see what we’re up to, to be genuinely interested in us, and the same is true vice versa. What’s frustrating is when one party doesn’t see things this way – then communication is required and action must be taken.

And there you have it, my reasons on why children don’t listen to their parents anymore after a certain age – it isn’t to say someone is a ‘bad parent’ because that concept would suggest the label is permanent, but it isn’t. Like most things in life, it can be improved.

Why you need to get out and explore

I’m a believer that ‘exploration’ is monumental in personal growth and development. And by ‘exploration’ I don’t mean take a vacation for a change of scenery. Whilst changing your physical location will certainly help with discovery, creativity, and the learning process, but what can you do when taking yourself to the nearest airport is not an option?

I summarized exploration comes in different forms, which I’ve classified into the five spheres of exploration (so hopefully, one will never be bored):

Physical

The most apparent of all forms, it involves physically being somewhere in order to ‘experience’ through the senses and discover something new through reflection.

Mental

You don’t have to leave your house to explore and see the world, or reflect – there’s world within worlds offered in books, or even articles. One could draw upon ideas from thousands of years ago, or articles published just last month. Especially now with the help of one of the most powerful tools in the universe, the internet is a great place to set off exploring things you’d like to learn.

Social

An often overlooked form of exploration, we humans are social creatures, we need other people in our lives for support and social nourishment. While one could live alone in solitude, I’d estimate that’s only a small portion of society. We seek out those similar to us in order to connect and this is a healthy thing to do.

Emotional

How many emotions can one experience in a lifetime? That question is probably best answered by Google, or via Quora or Reddit. However, since we’re talking about exploration, experiences and how to explore all that is around you – I want to point out that emotional exploration is also important. How many emotions can you feel? What about those that you cannot describe with words? You tell me.

Spiritual

And at last, spiritual, this has nothing to do with religion, as one does not have to ascribe to religion to be spiritual. Spirituality is something that is personal and in my personal experience, deals more with philosophy than anything else. I’m a believer that we’re ‘free’, free to believe and behave, therefore, it is all the more important for me to come up with codes which I follow – and this again is something one must discover for themselves.

It’s a matter of priorities

Every time someone starts a question with: “How do you know/do this?”

“Where did you learn it?”

“How did you make it work?”

I tell them. It’s all a matter of priorities. All it takes is a little creativity and a little exploring. In my honest opinion, to make something happen, first one must think outside the box and envision what could be accomplished or achieved. Then, without limiting yourself, go after what you want and improvise on the way. Even if the first few attempts are met with failure, if the conviction is sturdy enough, one will find a way to break through and reach the goal.

Whenever someone asks me, “how do you –” I’m more amazed that they don’t step outside the box and explore other options. I’m actually not sure how, or why this happens – but if I had to guess, it’s a matter of priorities and passion for your priorities.

My priorities are vastly different than what they were 3 years ago, and it is still evolving daily. However, I can say, I know what I want and I’m not afraid to get it – now its your turn.

What do you want?

And why aren’t you getting it?

I’m on a money diet

I hate worrying. Worrying is not productive. Worrying is probably the least productive thing you could do.

While working out my budget for this year, I realized that I can’t be too ‘laxed’ with my spending.

Yes, so the story is, after I came back to the new job with the plan to fuel up the bank account then get out, again. That plan hasn’t changed. What had changed however, was the frequency in which I find myself doing so – this is for personal reasons, as well as professional reasons.

So trip(s) plural planned. I need to watch my spending.

I’m a fan of minimalism.

Case and point, I haven’t shopped for anything other than food (since I came back), which is already a good start. However, I do see myself splurging on nonessentials – i.e: going out for lunch, drinks, and so on and so forth. And not so surprisingly those things add up. While I’m up to date with everything as far as my finances are concerned, I do like to stay out of the red and in the green. So. That said. I’m imposing a money challenge for myself.

Not spending a penny for the next two weeks.

We’ll see how that goes.

You are the SUM of things

You are the sum of the things.

You are the sum of the things you are in touch with.

You are the sum of things you think about.

You are the sum of people you talk to.

You are the sum of concepts you admire.

You are the sum of the art you appreciate.

You are the sum of theories you ponder.

You are the sum of the endless rotations of planets.

You are the sum of explosions of stars and stardust.

You are the sum of beginning and the end.

You are the sum of a trillion in one chance of a miracle.

You are the sum of all things and everything.

You are the sum of nothing and traceless abyss.

– brought to you by, collaboration between Yours Truly & Insomnia.

How I unconsciously quit Instagram (for now).

It was the other day, when I was rushing through my day, I realized, something wasn’t popping up on the top of my phone. No notifications other than emails? That’s odd. Then I realized. I had logged out of Instagram that one night and haven’t gone back on since.

Then life went on.

Oh.

It’s true that social media has grown exponentially in the past ten years, and now we have all forms of it, Facebook, Tumblr, Twitter, Instagram, SnapChat, Vine etc. you name it – it’s like a never ending share-athon of ideas and information. There’s of course entertainment value to be had from Social Media, but increasingly, there’s a pressure for young people, or even professionals to keep up with the ‘Social Media’ game.

“Are you on SnapChat? Twitter?”

Say no and expect a look of disappointment from the person who’d just asked you the question, and feel a sense of FOMO – am I missing something out by not being on those platforms?

Cue to downloading the app and trying it out for yourself, then spending hours on it.

But the point is, I fail to keep up either way.

Instagram is one of my favourite apps – it is always highly inspirational to see what my favourite photographers are doing on that app and highly inspirational to see sights from all over the world – however, now, that I am not traveling – I have 0 new content to contribute and 0 inspirations – rather than sobbing over a case of FOMO, I logged out to focus on the present – which currently requires more time and energy than I have to expend.

Between your professional life and your personal life, there is now a third ‘life’.

Your ‘social media life’, your ‘digital footprint’, ‘virtual persona’ – does it really reflect who you are as a person? Somewhat. But that’s a topic for another time. Currently, I only have time for ‘professional life’ anything personal is kept to a minimum and anything virtual is virtually nonexistent.