“Why can’t I be so and so?”
Simple: I’m too busy being myself.
Yes, I’m sure everyone’s heard some version of this. Being a copy is the waste of the person you are. Yet, it seems very difficult for a person push for that individuality when society more than encourages us to be one way or the other. The ever homogenizing norm, which in my opinion serves as a reference book, but definitely not a guidebook.
Outside of law, conformity to norms often means reward, or certainty of reward. Disobedience often means punishment or high tradeoffs. Or, in my opinion, it could also mean, exploration, in which you colour outside the lines with your life. Risky and bold and uncertain, with no guarantees – yet somehow, more and more, I find this to be more appealing.
It seems very difficult, in a sense to remain individuality in the world where people are often made feel insecure. And I’ve been in my share of situations where I’ve felt more than inadequate. Though, I do believe, this feeling is common and unavoidable in the population, regardless of how confident one might appear there were always be times where one is made to feel uncomfortable about their attributes and quirks. I tend to think that’s what makes people interesting and worth getting to know – their quirks and their edges – things that make them stand out from the masses.
Hence, I don’t see why people or myself even, at times wished to be someone else (perhaps it’s the ease that we see, or the ease we imagine our idols live their lives) but more and more I find myself more contented with the ways I’ve lived my life in recent days. How much I’ve discovered by being open to new experiences.
All in all.
Be authentic and true to yourself.
Anything else is a waste of time.